Non-Verbal Communication...is there any other type?

As I sat in class on Tuesday I realized that everyone communicates non-verbally. And then I realized that people communicate MORE with non-verbal actions rather than with words. Why is that? I asked myself that question many times in class and I came up with one answer... we, as human beings, are simply more comfortable with not "saying" how we feel as opposed to "showing" how we feel.

The other day, my roommate and I got into a little bit of a disagreement. She said something hurt my feelings and instead of saying something to her, I just pouted for the rest of the night. Eventually, she asked if I was upset with her and like a stupid person I said no. In actuality I was very upset with her for what she said. Why is it that I was okay with showing her that I was upset, but I wasn't okay with telling her I was upset with her? I just don't understand why it is easier to communicate non-verbally. After all, I love talking and you would think that it would be easier to say, "hey I'm mad at you." But it is definitely not easier.

We didn't really discuss how we communicate non-verbally when we're upset... we instead talked about how we communicate non-verbally when we like someone. I think that the communication that is non-verbal between two people who have feelings for each other stems from childhood. When we were little kids we didn't go up to a boy or girl and say "Hey I like You!" Instead, the boys would chase or tease the girl they liked or the girl would hide from the boy they liked. It was in the way we showed the person of interest that we were infatuated with them. I don't know why, as humans with exceptional intelligence compared to animals, we cannot just tell someone how we feel. Guilty as charged, I will admit. But, that doesn't make it right. Professors and psychologists try to justify why people use non-verbal communication but why?

If everyone would just say how they felt instead of trying to show people through subtle actions, then maybe our world wouldn't be so easily deceived. I am weird, I guess, for thinking this way. I know there are some people who think that non-verbal communication actually shows more than verbal communication. But, I disagree completely.