It's Sunday afternoon and I always end up remembering I have to write on this blog for some reason at about this same time. I missed class on Friday, which is disappointing but I guess that what comes with doing too many things at one time.
The class on Tuesday was one of the more interesting classes that I think we've had. Relationships with boys and girls can be difficult to handle sometimes, especially when one of the persons in the relationship treats the other one in a bad manner. With the case study about Amy, Dan, and Haley was very interesting and it is so true for many of the relationships that I see around me daily. Dan is critical of Haley and Amy doesn't know what to do to tell Haley that she is being treated unfairly. There is a girl I know that was dating a guy who treated her not so nicely. I never saw him hit her, or yell at her, but the things he didn't do did just as much as damage as what he "could" have done.
For instance, they had been dating for almost a year and I swear that he only came over to her apartment when he wanted "fool" around or do whatever it is they were doing in her room (I didn't care too much to listen in on what was happening). For months my friend and I tried to talk to her about how her boyfriend treated her, but we always ended up on a dead end road leading to no where with her. She was blind; she thought her relationship was perfect and that there was nothing wrong. HOnestly, when a guy decides he would rather play video games than spend time with you after not seeing you for a few days in a row, there is somethign wrong. Or when he doesn't want to talk to you when he is around his friends, there is something wrong. He wasn't critical of her but he always had a way of making her feel like he was always right, and she always believed him. Trust me, my friend and I tried to tell her to open her eyes and realize he didn't treat her the way he should but she didn't listen. You know what happened? He ended up breaking up with her and now she is devastated. Lost and confused, she just mopes around and seems depressed. Come on, honestly, he didn't treat her that well to begin with so why would she miss him? Because, when you're in a relationship that isn't "right" in the eyes of others around you it is hard to understand and comprehend that there is something wrong.
In our class discussion we talked about ways we could talk to Haley about how Dan was treating her. But, it doesn't matter what you say or do to the friend that needs help, it is going to take them opening their own eyes. As outsiders, we cannot change anyone or make anyone "wake up" and realize that there is something wrong with their personal relationship. No matter how hard we try, there is juts nothing we can say that is going to make them realize how badly they are being treated. Even people who are abused don't realize they are in a horrible situation until they are out of it for a while. Believe me, I tried to help my friend but until she is completly away from the situtaion, she will not see that she was treated unfairly and she will continue to long for him to come back to her.
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